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How to make the relationship stable and harmony

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Someone visit dating sites for bisexuals and find his elite single girlfriend. But just a couple of days later, the relationship ends. So he asks me why did such a relationship finish. As a relationship counselor, I list five major relationship killers: CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear motivates various forms of controlling behavior. Does controlling behavior fall into two major categories? overt control and covert control. Overt control includes many forms of attack, such as blaming anger, rage, violence, judgment, criticism, and ridicule. Covert control includes compliance, enabling, withdrawal, defending, explaining, lying and denying. Often a person at the other end of attack will respond with some form of covert control in an attempt to have control over not being attacked. Controlling behavior always results in resentment and emotional distance, bringing about the very rejection that it is